無論戀愛還是友誼，各種人際關係中，我們不免在他人身上追求一些優秀特質，但是在崇尚自由的現代，大男人主義對於許多獨立女性已經不再適用，特別是有違身體自主權的不合理要求！
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17歲少女Savannah Brown寫了一首詩《男人想在女孩身上尋找什麼What Guys Look For In Girls》，抨擊這些由男性強制附加在女人身上的偏差觀念！不管你的性別為何，隨著她的語音起落審視內心，或許你也能收到那份感動與共鳴…
Savannah Brown《What Guys Look For In Girls》
原文與翻譯：
When I first learned that no one could ever love me more than me
當我首度得知沒人會比自己更愛我
a world of happiness previously unseen was discovered
從來不曾見識過的世界自此被發現
because somewhere along the line of aging and scrutiny and time
因為年紀、閱歷和時間的增長
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I was taught to despise myself
我曾經被教導自我鄙視
but I made sure I kept myself beautiful so someone would love me someday
但我確保自己打扮漂亮，好讓將來有人會愛上我
so I could belong to someone someday
那一天我才能有所歸屬
because that's the most important thing a little girl could ever want, right?
因為那是一位小女孩所能冀望的人生大事，對吧？
I was thirteen the first time I was embarrassed about my body
當時我年僅十三，第一次因為自己的身體感覺尷尬
of course it would not be the last
當然第一次不代表最後一次
and I remember stuffing my bra in the morning
而我記得早上將胸墊塞滿時
with tears stinging my eyes
淚水刺痛我的雙眼
hoping, praying to something that I could look beautiful enough today, braces and all, for the ruthless boys
希望、祈禱，戴上牙套和裝備我今天看起來夠美麗，為了那些殘酷的男孩
who mercilessly told me I was worthless
那些男孩曾經無情地說我沒價值
because my boobs weren't big enough
因為我的胸部不夠豐滿
and I would go home and put on a sweatshirt with my eyes closed,
我可以回家閉上眼睛穿上運動衫
deny myself the right to be shown myself,
全盤否認我擁有表現自己的權利
because I didn't dare want to insinuate beauty
因為我不敢要求他們影射的美麗
in regards to something so insulting as my body.
關於那些侮辱我身體的言論
But I mean we all end up with our heads between our knees
但我指的是我們全都自視甚低
because the only place we'll ever truly feel safe
因為我們真心感到安全的地方
is curled up inside skin we've been taught to hate
是深藏在被教導去厭惡的體內
by a society that shuns our awful confidence and feeds us our own flaws
來自一個迴避我們低落自信、用自身缺陷教導我們的社會
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and sometimes when I need to meet the me that loves me, I can't find her,
當我需要會會那位愛自己的我的時候，卻找不到她
a reminder that the mirror is meant to be a curse so I confine her in my mind
提醒我鏡子注定要成為詛咒，所以我將她關在我的腦海中
but when when he or she shouts let me out
但當他或她大叫解放自我
we're allowed to listen.
我們終於能聽見
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But it's met by a chorus of conceited
但當它碰上自負組成的合唱團轟炸
egotistical
自大
narcissist
自戀
but since when was self solicitude a sin?
從何時開始自我關懷成了一種罪惡？
since when was loving who we are made an offense by morons that don't matter
愛自己遭到舉無輕重的白痴所打壓
change this physicality and that one, don't you shatter the illusion you could ever
因此去改變肉體，永不能打敗幻象
be anything beyond paper fine flesh and flashy teeth and fingernails
一副超越紙張的上等肉體、閃亮的牙齒和指甲
echoic accusations of not good enough, never good enough
還不夠好如回聲般控訴，永遠不滿足
have you ever felt so numb that it hurts
每當因此受傷時，你是否曾感到麻木？
entertain me
取悅我
whore
蕩婦
you can't surrender to them
你不能像他們屈服
you gotta remember you're the only thing you'll ever truly have
你必須記得你只為自己所有
and no I don't mean your body because someday it'll go bad no matter what you do
而不，我指的不是你的身體，因為無論你怎麼做，有天情況可能會變壞
I mean you
我指的是
I mean the way your bright eyes go wild when you smile
我指的是當你微笑，璀璨雙眸變得狂野
and how your laughter's so melodic it's a song
而你的笑聲就像首歌一樣和諧
I mean the way your creativity's a compass that leads you to what you love
我指的是你的創意是指南針，引導你找到所愛
and you don't need any miracle cream to keep your passions smooth, hair free
而你不需要任何奇蹟面霜，讓你的熱情保持熱情、去除雜毛
or diet pills to slim your kindness down
或是靠減肥藥削減親切感
and when you start to drown in these these petty expectations
當你開始被這些小期望所淹沒
you better examine the miracle of your existence
你最好開始確認你存在的奇蹟
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because you're worth so much more than your waistline
因為你值得這麼多，絕對超越你的腰圍
you're worth the beautiful thoughts you think
你的美好思想值得被肯定
and the daring dreams you dream, undone and drunk off alcohol of being
而你最大膽的夢想，隨著酒精消化和放棄掉的
but sometimes we forget that
有時候我們遺忘了
because we live in a word where the media pulls us from the womb
因為我們從子宮內就聽信媒體塞給我們的觀念
nurses us
如此養育我們
and teaches us our first words
還有教導我們第一個字
skinny pretty skinny pretty
瘦即美、瘦即美
girls soft quiet pretty
柔軟的女孩滿美
boys manly muscles pretty
健身的男孩頗帥
but I don't care whether it's your gender, your looks, your weight, your skin, or where your love lies
但我不在乎究竟是你的性別、你的外貌、你的體重、你的皮膚，或是你的愛在何方
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none of that matters because standards don't define you
那一切都不重要，因為標準不能定義一個人
you don't live to meet credentials established by a madman
沒有人需要為了滿足瘋子所建立的準則而活
you're a goddamn treasure whether you wanna believe it or not
你是難得的寶物，無論你相信與否
and maybe that's what everyone should start looking for.
或許這正是每個人該開始尋找的東西
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美國俄亥俄州正妹Savannah Brown用YouTube錄製Vlog已經長達3年之久，她和網友分享她的生活，並抒發她的看法，獨立思考讓她贏得將近10萬粉絲的支持！
這首詩其實是針對3位青少年YouTuber對女性的看法做出回應─16歲的Nash Grier、18歲的Cameron Dallas和20歲的JC Caylen發布一則視頻《男人想在女孩身上尋找什麼What Guys Look For In Girls》，網友反應好壞兩極，引發熱烈爭議。原始影片已被移除，但仍留有熱心網友備份版，聽聽看他們怎麼說。
Nash Grier (and friends)《What Guys Look For In Girls》
根據短片中3人言論，一位理想的女孩，性格要有趣到能娛樂男人，多才多藝到會燒美味的飯菜，主動、愛玩、愛抱抱、有才華、目標和夢想，還要能幹到有辦法「讓你成為一個更好的人」，又要求女人「不能比男人好」。
至於外貌方面，他們特愛嬌小、苗條又自然的女性，卻要求她們一定要剃毛，穿上長襪，不化濃妝，甚至不畫眉毛，最好看起來純真，還有柔軟的頭髮、微笑、酒窩和雀斑等特點。並痛批「假奶」以及一些女孩缺乏個性，只是想找個有錢的老公嫁掉的心態。
講了將近10分鐘，零零總總的結論是：「做自己」，完全與前述眾多怪異條件互相矛盾。男人，你們究竟想在女孩身上找到什麼？無論男女，沒有人有資格強迫他人改變，請積極自我要求，成長為更好的人吧！
Source: savanamazing -youtube, nash-grier-vine-youtube-sexist-video-backlash -dailydot, a-review-of-nash-griers-what-guys-look-for-in-a-girl -kaitlinguini
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